Quite a few times, my friend suggested, that If I really want to stay here, I marry a New Zealand citizen.
I feel insulted.
She encouraged her friend to do the same.
One mid-morning while I’m chewing on my breakfast, her friend was already busy messaging on facebook and checking dating sites, while texting on her phone, answering phone calls both on her phone and our landline, from different men.
I admire her. She’s quite a multi-tasker.
My friend also urged her to meet and go out with prospective mates.
One day, a man came to the house to meet her. On the nth day, another one came during lunch to look for her.
I really pity the girl. I don’t think she likes what she is doing.
On a separate occasion, my friend told me again, that I have to be practical. If I want to stay in New Zealand, I marry a citizen, ‘It’s a practice here,” she quipped.
I firmly said, “No!”
I may be drowned in debt coming here, I may break my back working in a cleaning job, but I will never subject myself to a decision that will leave me unhappy in the long run.
I came here to have a peaceful and decent life. True enough, the Philippines is a chaotic country but I rather go back to my country than do something against my values.
Marriage for convenience for me is slow prostitution, for others, it may be otherwise.
As long as I am contented living below my means. I would not suffer my dignity over a permanent resident visa. I’m a hopeless romantic too. I believe in love – true love, and I don’t want to lose it over a darn paper.
Earlier this week, she told me, she knows somebody who wants to marry a Filipina. She said the man already has a house and has his own business. She showed me a picture.
” Ah, that’s one of the guys who came here!”
I told her, I know somebody from my class, who was not really here to study but find a husband. Why not her?
Very recently, she said she knows somebody – a gay man, who has helped a number of Filipinos get their permanent residency through partnership visa for $5,000. All these ladies are now permanent residents and are divorced from him.
Well, good for them. These ladies must be living comfortable lives.
My friend just doesn’t realize a fraudulent partnership visa is riskier than she thought it is. They may be successful in their sham marriages in the past and got away with it, it’s different now.
New Zealand Immigration is not stupid not to detect dubious marriages.